Some days ago, I'd been taged on a pic at Instagram. I had no guts to read the rest of the lines when the title got so clear for me to understand that it's not something really fun to read; "A woman can never be at peace until she got got married"
I read every line to absorb any message being sent to me. I tried too hard to be calm. Yes, the truth is I'm not married (yet),but inshaAllah soon; and being not calm when offended by this kind of reading makes me not at peace at all. Claim no.1 in the reading, ACCEPTED (around 60-85%)
Message two that I've got is; When you get scholarships to study "abroad" and you're not married yet, it can be a bless for you,but not for others; it's a curse people.. Brace yourself!! You can be a criminal... Not to mention if you are going to be 30s. Poor you ladies; Get a husband soon.Because according to the reading, if you are on your 30s and you got scholarships "abroad" taking your master, there's NO chance for you; an absolute NO chance for you to get married to a guy (maybe someone's husband or if you're lucky someone's ex-husband). Na naaa. Face the reality. And this claim people, are not for women who studied abroad but pay by their owns. Nope.. They are the rich; the claim is not for them. It's totally for the ones who got the scholarships; people who had no green papers that much to pay for education. CLAIM no.2, somewhat accepted (40%)
The next claim that sounds soooo silly is that, women who study abroad (with scholarships of course) do so for one significant purpose; postponing the marriage. Hell yeaaaah.. You said it. There are few things need to be clarified here. First, just because some do that, never mean the whole community do the same thing too. This case is being argued lately, just like the case of Charlie Hebdo and the annoying ISIS (i know.. It's out of topic). Simply saying that all women study abroad are "sorting" their "husband wanabe" is a false statement ladies and gentlemen. Furthermore, studying is a good deed!! For god sake.. It's not for myself. It's for the community that I live in and I love soooo effing much. Therefore, this claim is certainly 100% rejected. REJECTED!
To sum up..
1. Every soul has its own path to go through. Just because we are together doesn't mean we have to get through the same storm
2. Man's faith is no man's shit! It's God who created and wrote everything unique for every soul. And I do believe God has designed the best plan for me to live on.
3. My study is also a kind of worship for me to God.
4. Live your own and be peace with it. Once you think other people life is suck and you try to solve (read; mess) it; there's something wrong with yours too. Stick to yours. If you want to help; HAVE YOUR OWN SAY! Don't use others' words; the message can be misinterpreted and people would mind it like a lot! And got offended and annoyed too. The bad feeling may last days, or worse; weeks.
peace and love for all
being single is not a crime!!
;)
I read every line to absorb any message being sent to me. I tried too hard to be calm. Yes, the truth is I'm not married (yet),but inshaAllah soon; and being not calm when offended by this kind of reading makes me not at peace at all. Claim no.1 in the reading, ACCEPTED (around 60-85%)
Message two that I've got is; When you get scholarships to study "abroad" and you're not married yet, it can be a bless for you,but not for others; it's a curse people.. Brace yourself!! You can be a criminal... Not to mention if you are going to be 30s. Poor you ladies; Get a husband soon.Because according to the reading, if you are on your 30s and you got scholarships "abroad" taking your master, there's NO chance for you; an absolute NO chance for you to get married to a guy (maybe someone's husband or if you're lucky someone's ex-husband). Na naaa. Face the reality. And this claim people, are not for women who studied abroad but pay by their owns. Nope.. They are the rich; the claim is not for them. It's totally for the ones who got the scholarships; people who had no green papers that much to pay for education. CLAIM no.2, somewhat accepted (40%)
The next claim that sounds soooo silly is that, women who study abroad (with scholarships of course) do so for one significant purpose; postponing the marriage. Hell yeaaaah.. You said it. There are few things need to be clarified here. First, just because some do that, never mean the whole community do the same thing too. This case is being argued lately, just like the case of Charlie Hebdo and the annoying ISIS (i know.. It's out of topic). Simply saying that all women study abroad are "sorting" their "husband wanabe" is a false statement ladies and gentlemen. Furthermore, studying is a good deed!! For god sake.. It's not for myself. It's for the community that I live in and I love soooo effing much. Therefore, this claim is certainly 100% rejected. REJECTED!
To sum up..
1. Every soul has its own path to go through. Just because we are together doesn't mean we have to get through the same storm
2. Man's faith is no man's shit! It's God who created and wrote everything unique for every soul. And I do believe God has designed the best plan for me to live on.
3. My study is also a kind of worship for me to God.
4. Live your own and be peace with it. Once you think other people life is suck and you try to solve (read; mess) it; there's something wrong with yours too. Stick to yours. If you want to help; HAVE YOUR OWN SAY! Don't use others' words; the message can be misinterpreted and people would mind it like a lot! And got offended and annoyed too. The bad feeling may last days, or worse; weeks.
peace and love for all
being single is not a crime!!
;)
